When I first got started in hypnosis, I went around to everyone I knew asking to hypnotize them. Most of the people said no, but a few of them agreed to “try” hypnosis. These people knew nothing about hypnosis, but being a confident newcomer, I didn’t feel I had to educate them on the subject. I figured all I had to do was copy some Youtube videos I’d seen.
I knew I could hypnotize someone if I just followed the videos I had watched. Looking back, I think I may have been too confident in myself. This can blow up in your face sometimes. I walked up to a friend, told him to press on my hand, and close his eyes. The moment he started to apply pressure to my hand, I yelled “sleep” in a deep voice.
As I yelled sleep, I knew I was going to be successful. I glanced up to see what a person in hypnosis looks like in real life and got a surprise. His eyes were wide open; he looked at me and asked, ‘Did it work?’ My hurt ego took a moment to recover, and I answered ‘No, it didn’t work, and I’m not sure why…’
Banging My Head Against A Hypnotic Wall
I had spent a week studying the videos and followed what I’d seen the hypnotist do on the video. I had no idea what was wrong and was about to chalk it up that he was one of the few people who couldn’t be hypnotized. Wow, I had a really big ego back then. I had some nerve assuming this was the case when it was my very first attempt at hypnotizing someone. Due to a lack of financial means, I couldn’t afford formal training.
My education came from all the free e-books floating around and several YouTube videos. I assumed that hypnosis was just as easy as yelling ‘Sleep!’ This obviously wasn’t the case. There’s a lot more going on behind the scenes than I first realized. It wasn’t until my friend lent me a video by Hypnosis Trainer Gerald Kein that I learned. That video gave me the tools I needed and changed my future. The hypnotist in the video mentioned how important it is to discuss hypnosis with the person before attempting to hypnotize them. He made the statement that put it all into place for me.
A person will only refuse to enter hypnosis based on the fear they have of the subject. I had been trying to enter a locked door without the key. I now had the necessary key to succeed. The key to getting a person to enter hypnosis is the Pre-Talk.
The Power Of A Good Hypnosis Pre-Talk
So the next question is, ‘What is a Pre-Talk?’ A pre-talk can be a long or brief talk about what hypnosis is. It should address any fears the person may have about hypnosis. You basically address some of the rumors and myths about hypnosis and explain the truth to the person. Let them know they are not asleep during hypnosis; they can still hear you speaking during hypnosis. Let the person know he or she is in control and will never do anything against their moral or ethics.
You want them to feel comfortable with hypnosis and give them the real facts. Society has programmed the general public with misconceptions of hypnosis. People think we perform some type of black magic, or we control their minds. So you must become the expert and explain the truth to them.
It makes a lot of sense. Looking back, I can’t believe I never thought of it before. Think about this for a moment. Would you skydive off of a plane if you were afraid of heights? You might really want to experience it, but due to your fear, you just can’t make that jump. Have you ever wanted to do anything in your life, but some fear held you back? If so, then you may have an idea about what might be going through the head of the person you are about to hypnotize. They don’t know what to expect and may be afraid, even if they don’t tell you so.
What’s Next In The Hypnosis Pre-talk?
The next part of the pre-talk is simple and is used more when using rapid or instant induction techniques. You must build up the person’s expectations of what to expect. You basically tell them that if they do exactly as you say, nothing more and nothing less, they will enter a wonderful, relaxed, deep state of hypnosis, and they will feel great. You want them to associate something good to the experience.
Let them know how good it’s going to feel, or how relaxed they are going to be when they enter hypnosis. Once you build this up, all you have to do is one more thing. You must ask permission to hypnotize the person.
I usually use something called the hypnotic contract. I basically tell the person, ‘If you do exactly as I say, nothing more and nothing less, you will enter a wonderful state of hypnosis. If you do this for me, I will make sure to take care of you, and no harm will come to you. If this is acceptable to you, are you ready to go into hypnosis?’ As you can see, I compounded the statement with repeating it twice, and the final step is added right onto the end of the contract.
This makes the person feel you respect them by asking them formal permission. It also gives the person permission for them to enter hypnosis, since all hypnosis is just self hypnosis. Once you have all of this in place, all you have to do is perform your rapid induction and watch the person enter hypnosis quickly and easily.
You Must Develop Confidence In Yourself and Hypnosis
A little tip to remember is to make sure you deliver your pre-talk with confidence. Confidence is a huge part of successful hypnosis. You will also find as you get better and better, you will be able to get this pre-talk down within a few minutes. For many beginners, learning how to be confident can be one of the hardest things to overcome. As my friend Nathan Thomas says in his Confident Hypnotist program, “Confidence begins in the mind”. All this means is that Confidence is a state of mind, and the more you think you are confident, the more confident you’ll become.
The pre-talk is the most important part of what we do as hypnotists. The pre-talk allows us to educate people and makes the client or person feel comfortable with us and comfortable enough to go into hypnosis. I recommend any beginner who is serious about the field of hypnotism to study hypnosis and learn the truth behind the rumors. This will help you in developing your own pre-talk. In the end, just remember to eliminate fears, build up the clients expectations, and get permission.
I hope this post helped you to understand the importance of The Pre-Talk.